when HE controls ur breath, HE is asserting HIS right to control ur body and ur life. HE won’t kill u, HE will just test ur determination to please HIS cock. watching HIS boy struggle and squirm reminds HIM of HIS power over u. feel HIS ego and pride grow as HE is reminded that u wil do anything to please HIM. HE is ur religion and ur GOD. u can breathe after HE holds u long enough to physically remind u both of HIS greatness and HIS place in the hierarchy over u. Thank HIM for the lesson and continue to serve with everything.
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I couldn’t agree more with this post. I love it when my Master makes me struggle and holds my mouth down on His cock until He’s ready for me to breathe.
Contrary to stereotypical assumptions, big, strong guys need structure and discipline in their lives, too. It would appear this guy and his Dom have recently shared some “quality time” and now he’s contemplating the lesson he’s learned.
This is beautiful. I wish I had read this before my first relationship. I spent many miserable months with a man who had me convinced that to be a “real slave” my wants, needs and happiness didn’t matter. He was full of shit and only out for himself. In my opinion he had no right to call himself a “Master” of anything.
Always worth a re-read and some reflection.
BDSM works because you are strong enough to submit and he is strong enough to handle that..
An amazingly simple device. Simple design. Only two points for adjustment - one to ensure it stays securely in place, the other to push the ball deeper and deeper into a submissive’s mouth and throat. Probably not for the faint of heart.
Imagine a sub who happens to have a hair-trigger gag reflex. Imagine his reaction when his Sir shows him this device. The ball gag is formidable in and of itself. The initial sensation of the sizable ball in the front of one’s mouth might be erotic but could quickly become terrifying as the ball is slowly forced deeper into the mouth with each turn of the wing-nut, pushing down the sub’s tongue, making it impossible to speak and threatening to jeopardize his ability to breath. With the interior of the mouth so brilliantly sensitive, even blindfolded one would feel the tiniest movement in the ball’s journey.
It truly is as much a mind-fuck device as it is a ball gag. And that is part of the “magic”, isn’t it?
Some might see a Dom treating his pup to a biscuit for good behavior. Others might see a sub obediently opening his mouth to accept the bar of soap his Dom has decided to use to enforce the ‘think before you speak’ lesson. Judging from the Dom’s expression, I don’t think he’s holding a biscuit.
If it took you longer than 5 seconds to figure out what goes where, you need to retake the course, Metal Bondage 101.
There is certainly nothing wrong with giving a deserving sub a no-nonsense spanking but it’s worth knowing your target.
Guess it’s easy to get lost in the fantasy of submission. Believing that with the right set of circumstances your identity, independence and thoughts will become so centred on your Dom that you will slip into subspace and lose yourself in the sensation of service. Its easy to trick yourself into…
At first glance, one might see a bottom about to give head to a top. Not the least bit uncommon in gay porn and not the least bit outside the vanilla norm.
If one were slightly perverted (like me), one might see a submissive surrendering to the will of his Dom and about to give far more than a ordinary blow job.
While the expressive eyes make a strong statement, the Dom’s thumb in the sub’s mouth beautifully symbolizes the intimacy shared between them.
For nearly everyone, no matter gender or orientation, the interior of the mouth is one of the most intimate parts of the body. We grant access to a select few - and then, usually only for sexual purposes. People freak out if someone double-dips at a party and not even married/committed couples are usually comfortable sharing a toothbrush. Even during medical and dental exams, an instrument or probe invades the mouth but seldom the doctor’s actual fingers.
So, when a submissive allows a Dom to invade his mouth with fingers or thumbs, a huge transfer of power takes place. In effect, the sub is accepting the breach of social protocol and granting the Dom intimate access to not only his body but also his psyche.
Since Sir came into my life I have developed a habit of being on time. He is very clear about the consequence if I should be late.
Sir can be a man of very few words when he needs to be “ Think about all you’ve learned about serving me, make sure I get it”. I’d barely finished reading his message…
I recently reblogged a post from a writer I don’t know but have come to respect a great deal.The piece is about humiliation in a power exchange relationship and I almost didn’t share it because humiliation is one of those “tools” that has the potential of being very erotic and useful in building the Master-slave dynamic (when used by a Dom who knows his trade and knows his sub intimately) but it also has the potential of being destructive and abusive when used on the wrong submissive.
The potential harm of some of the more intense BDSM practices are pretty obvious, even to the novice: breath control, whipping, CBT, etc. The progressive damage from these activities is easily observed and the appropriate time to stop is easy to judge. When the attack is psychological, rather than physical, making good judgment calls is not so easy.
Blogs that depict subs as worthless and mindless are the norm; perfect fantasy. Crossing from fantasy to reality requires reality checks and an important one is the understanding that humiliation and psychological assault can be destructive in a way very similar to bullying.
So, if you’re a less-experienced Dom, don’t believe everything you read and see on every BDSM blog. Responsible Doms learn to read their subs, not only the obvious body language but the tiniest grimace and what they see in the submissive’s eyes.
The truth is, anyone can call himself a Master but, in reality, the title is earned. It is earned by learning to be a responsible, knowledgeable technician in the BDSM Arts. When that occurs, one truly is a “Master”.
The Total Power Exchange.
That illusive and somewhat mystical acceptance of complete submission to a dominant individual, whereby the submissive surrenders to the complete authority of the dominant.
I say illusive, as a true power exchange is rare. As individuals it is not common that we agree…