As an Object, it understands and accepts it can NOT be anything else… this is its life.
Not so fully trained. It’s grabbing it’s cock…an object never grabs it’s cock without being supervised
I cannot tell the gay fetish community how much i freaking despise this kind of shitty “object” rhetoric. Maybe if it was the right kinda picture then that would be cool, but this sub is clearly a pup. It was an object or a slave he’d be wearing a friggin rubber catsuit and be in chastity- he’s not even fucking collared! It’s a pup chillin by the pool. This kind of fanfic, especially from that dickblogger objectd IMHO is the cancer of the gay fetish community on tumblr. If half the dudes that wrote this shit had ever been truly owned or been an owner then they would know that subs deserve way more respect than this. The majority are not a cumdump, and are not an object for use, they are human being that should be loved more than most for trusting you with everything that he is or could be. And I find this, THIS shitty rhetoric so upsetting because it will convince young subs that it is all they should be and that is wrong. Fuck this i’m gonna start video blogging soon, the stupidity in some members of this community is too much to handle anymore. We all deserve better than this.
I would really appreciate it if you rebloged this for this note.
Thanks…this ^ !!
Some of objectd pics are good but I always remove his comments because of exactly this reasons
Double triple extra double dog dare ^
Insightful, lucid, dead-on accurate comments worth a read, re-read and reblog.
I frequently find that it is assumed by most people that if you are a person who wishes to take a submissive role, that you should automatically be a bottom between the sheets.
So let’s just get this clear. When describing one’s sexual role within the gay community, we tend to use three classes…
Burning Question for Today: Is this what we call “topping from the bottom” or proof that stereotypes like “REAL Doms never get fucked” are bullshit???
Not long ago, I read the following in an online profile:
"There are rules and guidelines in the traditional BDSM world that clearly define the role of subs and slaves. The internet has opened up what was a very structured and tight-knit community to the curious. The majority don’t respect or know about the traditions of the BDSM community."
He speaks the truth and, in fact, understates it. What was once a closed society of men and women who embraced the power exchange dynamic and protected their own is now played out in the anonymous arena known as the internet. Titles that were once earned and carried respect and honor are now equivalent to “Hello! My Name Is…” stick-on badges. Anyone can call himself a ‘slave’ and, perhaps, worse, anyone with a lousy self-image and a tenancy to bully others to boost his own self worth can proclaim himself a ‘master’. For the real players on a quest to find themselves and suitable partners, waters that were once murky are now a thick sea of mud that is nearly impossible to navigate.
So, how does one separate the wheat from the chaff - the Masters from the masterbaters?
There is no easy answer but real social networking will always win out. Real people will always trump Internet anonymous. And meeting people is the easy part. The difficult part is finding an honest dialog with someone. In the end, honesty is the critically important ingredient in finding a real and longer-term power exchange partner.
So be honest with yourself and prospective partners, put on your rubber hip boots and start wading through the mud!
First original post ;) me!!
IMHO, this is a really GREAT selfie! Not only is he cute as hell but his expression captures the pure joy of being who he is and what he is… This is the face of a natural submissive. What Dom wouldn’t want to give this pup the perfect forever home???
The moment of collaring never fails to bring out a smile. :)A smile on both of us!
The word ‘negotiation’ carries overtones of rational business sense, equals seeking a common goal and a general concern for the welfare of everyone concerned. It is not a word one might associate with an exchange between a prospective slave and potential Master.
In the BDSM community, the word ‘claim’ or ‘collar’ is often associated with the image of a naked man on his knees, head bowed, hands behind his back and a fully clothed man, towering above him in a position of authority. The dialog is usually one-sided with the Master dictating the terms and conditions by which the naked man will serve out his remaining days.
For those actually seeking a Master/slave relationship, I have one suggestion: jack off first, then negotiate!
Fantasy is fun but reality (if it’s going to last longer than a one-time-thing) requires that the needs, wants and desires of both partners be recognized and fulfilled, at least to some extent.
It’s no secret that the “horniness factor” plays a huge factor in us, both psychologically and physiologically. High sexual arousal can sway the decisions we make and increase our threshold to erotic pain. What seemed like a hot idea prior to an orgasm very often seem less so following one.
Contrary to the beliefs of some, submissives do have a brain and they do not lose that brain when they commit to a Dom. No matter how good an actor, a committed slave will almost always loose his commitment and desire to serve if the original fulfillment and chemistry is no longer there. Dominant-submissive relationships can and do last a lifetime when those involved are living life and not attempting to live a script.
I’ve known slaves who have walked away from jobs, relationships and personal lives to follow their dream, only to have their dream turn into a nightmare. It happens when a potential-slave gives away what he needs to exist. It happens when a potential-Master collars a slave without adequately considering the responsibilities that come with ownership. It happens when the commitment to hold the relationship together is too weak and the ‘let’s-give-it-a-shot’ mentality is too strong.
Go after your dream! Search for the yin to your yang! And when you find each other, jack off and then negotiate. You will increase your chances of finding a truly great partner and a relationship that fulfills initially and long term.
People love labels. Read the reader comments following a news article on most any internet site and people liberally use labels to describe anyone expressing an opposing opinion. I’m not a fan of those types of labels but they’re a good thing when they accurately describe something and help people understand the correct meaning.
It is hard for me to muster a good word in favor of labels. They are never required, and only rarely appropriate.
Yet we all choose labels - myself included. They describe who we think we are, what kind of person we want to become, whom we would like to associate with (or dissociate from).
If carefully considered before being chosen, labels can communicate a great deal of meaning - but only to an “outsider” (which implies someone who has no reason to know the information being shared with him). An “insider” would understand all the subtleties and nuances that make the label an unintentional lie.
Perhaps it’s best if we all put a bit less faith in these fictions. As the original author said, labels “never expand options, they always limit options.”
Most people have one vacation that stands out from all the rest. It may be a trip abroad or a visit to an ancient city or being indulged on a cruise ship. One thing is fairly certain: it is safe and socially acceptable.
For a few, their memorable moment is their first time attending an event like the Folsom Street Fair, Folsom Europe, Southern Decadence or Dore Alley Street Fair; gatherings that are not only unacceptable to conventional society but events that celebrate images and behaviors that conventional society cannot even comprehend!
San Francisco, famous (infamous?) for it’s live-and-let-live reputation, hosts (among others) the Folsom Street Fair and Dore Alley Street Fair. If you’ve never attended, imagine 13 city blocks of Folsom Street cordoned off and jam-packed with every type of erotica vendor you can imagine and 400,000 people milling around and reveling in the freedom to be themselves. Folsom Street Fair is the largest leather/fetish event in the world and the 2014 Fair will mark their 31st year!
To those with taboo interests, “kink festivals” are a bit like fantasies-on-steroids-brought-to-life and the initial impact of thousands of people dressed (or undressed) in every conceivable manner are overwhelming. Whipping demonstrations and opportunities to be publicly spanked abound. The flood of “eye candy” is completely unique and creates memories that never grows dim. After the initial shock, the kid-in-a-candy-store feeling takes over and it takes a good long time before sensory overload kicks in.
During the Folsom Fair weekend, it’s not uncommon to walk into a restaurant and find yourself seated at a table next to leather couple, one of whom is collared and on a leash. People are wonderfully friendly and it’s easy to meet people over dinner and form friendships that become long term.
People fly from all over the world to attend the Folsom Street Fair and it’s a trip that should be on everyone’s Bucket List who has a passion for BDSM. It has also inspired several other similar events, such as Folsom Street East (New York), Folsom Street Europe (Berlin) and Southern Decadence (New Orleans).
Taking an “alternative” vacation may not be something you will share on Facebook but trust me - you will take more pictures at Folsom than you ever thought about taking when you visited the Hoover Dam!
Being submissive is not something one outgrows or gets over; submissive tendencies are a real and natural part of the personality of some people and need to be expressed. Unfortunately, society has a fairly narrow view of what’s normal and acceptable, so submissive feelings are often buried, hidden away or denied.
In a perfect world, there would be some way for a potential-slave to actually experience the reality of subservience and humility without jeopardizing his existing life. A submissive might be more inclined to take more risks to achieve a submissive lifestyle if he was fairly certain it was a good fit.
Several years ago, an acquaintance of mine set out to see if his fantasies had any serious future based in reality. Using a venue similar to craigslist.com, he placed an ad which roughly said:
Free House Cleaning for Alpha Males
Submissive male looking to experience domestic slavery for a day. If you are an Alpha guy who understands and know how to make it happen, I would appreciate hearing from you, Sir.
The posting resulted in his meeting an Alpha who completely understood the offer. He was relieved of his clothing immediately upon entering the Alpha’s home and spent a very long day cleaning, polishing, washing and waxing - always under his watchful eye and and ever-present belt that served to accentuate his point. At the end of the day, his clothes were returned and he left the house with:
Thinking outside the box can provide unique ways to gain real life experience that helps us know ourselves better.
More recently, I saw this listing in craigslist:
Str8? Lazy? Chore slave available - m4m - 34
Fag chore slave available for use and abuse… Make me clean and service your needs. Treat me like shit why doing it. I know my place, Sir.
Perfect for lazy str8/bi white and Hispanic men.
Let me know what side of town your on and what you need done or in mood for sirs.
Similar, yet different approaches and both unique. There’s no doubt that craigslist and similar sites carry risk, which obviously should be taken into account but the truth is, no one is reading your mind and no one is going to be your counterpart in a Dom-sub experience until you make yourself known and available.
Tumblr devotees (of addicts, your choice) know that porn, more often than not, is a study in extremes. Everyone has a perfect physique, huge endowment, perfect personas, perfected knot-tying techniques and the ideal degree of bravado.
Exploring the power exchange world is (supposedly) easier for submissives because, according to some, they aren’t supposed to have a brain, needs, desires, limits or feelings; they are supposed to wait patiently until they are given an order, then carry it out brilliantly, as though they’ve been in training for decades. New dominants have the added burden of being expected to instinctively know to direct, orchestrate and star in the feature presentation - and do it in such a way as to make the submissive want to return for a repeat performance.
In the real world, reality often includes a gut, grey hair, an average or even small endowment and the ego of a mere mortal. It’s no wonder that when opportunities to dip a toe into the real waters of dominance-submission present themselves, insecurities rise to the surface, cold feet take over and those opportunities are missed.
I have a suggestion for those just starting to expore the World of BDSM.
If one is serious, opportunities to explore the Master/slave dynamic will present themselves. When they do, take it slow and allow yourselve to adjust and reach some kind of comfort level. Don’t feel like you’ve got to impress anyone; you don’t, other than your partner for the moment and he’ll be pretty forgiving.
Imagine you are a Dom and sub, meeting for the first time and neither of you have much experience on which to draw. Rather than attempting to recreate a scenario associated with a porn picture, it might be far more comfortable if the Dom orders the sub to strip, kneel and hold a position with his hands clasped behind his neck. The Dom, remaining fully clothed, can then slowly inspect his “property” - caressing muscles, squeezing nipples, cupping balls - while observing how his submissive responds to various stimuli. The Dom can question his sub, make lusty suggestions of “torments” he might inflict on his slave, in short, learn to read the body language of his sub.
Unless you know your sub fairly well, avoid the common put-downs. In my experience, real submissives don’t view themselves or their gift of submission as worthless. And real Doms don’t either. If that type of trash talk has a viable future in a relationship, there will be adequate opportunities for it down the road.
Allowing insecurity to take over is a near perfect way to ensure nothing happens beyond fantasy. Admitting one’s own lack of experience is the important first-step to turning a fantasy into a reality. And reality is a required component of all types of power exchange relationships.
Just a suggestion you may want to ponder.